WEBVTT 00:00:03.266 --> 00:00:08.766 [The Mental Health Film Board Series, Emotions of Every Day Living] 00:00:08.766 --> 00:00:12.366 [No. 5, The Puerto Rico Department of Health presents Roots of Happiness, 00:00:12.366 --> 00:00:16.366 copyright MCMLIII by M.H.F.B., Inc.] 00:00:16.366 --> 00:00:21.932 [Produced by Sun Dial Films, Inc.] 00:00:21.933 --> 00:00:24.233 [Mental Health Film Board: K. Appel, M.D., T.A.C. Rennie, M.D., L. Baumgartner, M.D. 00:00:24.233 --> 00:00:26.233 H.P. Rome, M.D., C. Binger, M.D., L. Saul, M.D. 00:00:26.233 --> 00:00:28.066 J.M. Bobbitt, Ph.D., E.D. Swann, M.R. Kaufman, M.D. 00:00:28.066 --> 00:00:30.199 H.I. Weinstock, M.D., R.T. Morse, M.D.,A. Jacoby, Exec. Sec.] 00:00:30.200 --> 00:00:32.066 [Photographed by Joseph Brun, Edited by Dayton Wood, Narrated by Thomas Chalmers 00:00:32.066 --> 00:00:33.832 Psychiatric Consultant Viola W. Bernard, M.D., 00:00:33.833 --> 00:00:38.666 Commissioner of Health of Puerto Rico, Juan A. Pons, M.D.] 00:00:38.666 --> 00:00:43.066 [Produced under the Personal Supervision of Samuel A. Datlowe, Written by William S. Resnick, 00:00:43.066 --> 00:00:48.232 Directed by Henwar Rodakiewicz] 00:00:48.233 --> 00:00:58.566 [Music, children milling about] 00:00:58.566 --> 00:01:01.066 [Narrator:] Run, Juanito, run. 00:01:01.066 --> 00:01:05.466 It is midday, and you have important business. 00:01:05.466 --> 00:01:08.599 It is midday. School is out. 00:01:08.600 --> 00:01:18.933 It is a time for refreshments, for jokes and laughter. 00:01:18.933 --> 00:01:24.766 It is a time for quietness, for pleasant games and gentle amusements. 00:01:24.766 --> 00:01:34.266 It is a fine day, and school is out. 00:01:34.266 --> 00:01:40.632 It is middday, Juanito, and you have had your lunch, but your father is hungry. 00:01:40.633 --> 00:01:51.166 It is for this reason you run, leaving behind the games, the amusements. 00:01:51.166 --> 00:01:55.799 Run now for the food your mother has prepared,that your father also may eat, 00:01:55.800 --> 00:01:59.600 and rest and refresh himself. 00:01:59.600 --> 00:02:04.100 This is the story of Juanito and his father Juan Tomas García, 00:02:04.100 --> 00:02:28.900 his mother María, his sister Petra, his little brother Jesus, and the baby Conchita. 00:02:28.900 --> 00:02:34.500 This is the story of a part of the United States,the island of Puerto Rico... 00:02:34.500 --> 00:02:43.900 the story of the people who live on that island. 00:02:43.900 --> 00:02:48.666 This is a land where many live by farming,where a man's living comes from tobacco, 00:02:48.666 --> 00:03:00.999 or coffee, or citrus or sugar. 00:03:01.000 --> 00:03:04.600 Whatever the crop, the work is hard. 00:03:04.600 --> 00:03:09.666 The sun is hot. 00:03:09.666 --> 00:03:17.499 [Music] 00:03:17.500 --> 00:03:18.833 The work is hard. 00:03:18.833 --> 00:03:21.299 The land is poor. 00:03:21.300 --> 00:03:27.866 It is difficult for a man to earn a living. 00:03:27.866 --> 00:03:40.299 [Music] 00:03:40.300 --> 00:03:45.733 [Whistle blowing] 00:03:45.733 --> 00:03:50.299 This is the story of how people are: how they act with each other, 00:03:50.300 --> 00:03:54.533 how they are happy and contented, or miserable and afraid, 00:03:54.533 --> 00:04:00.833 the problems they have. 00:04:00.833 --> 00:04:04.899 The island, the land itself, the poverty on the land, 00:04:04.900 --> 00:04:09.400 have much to do with the nature of a man, a woman, a child. 00:04:09.400 --> 00:04:15.200 But the nature of people, the way they are, grows out of other things, too. 00:04:15.200 --> 00:04:21.033 It grows out of the feelings a man has, the way he feels toward the men he works with, 00:04:21.033 --> 00:04:24.966 toward his wife, his children. 00:04:24.966 --> 00:04:29.399 This is a story of some of those feelings that men and women have, 00:04:29.400 --> 00:04:35.200 how those feelings affect the children, how they help to mold the way a child grows, 00:04:35.200 --> 00:04:43.333 the way he develops into a man, the kind of man he will be. 00:04:43.333 --> 00:04:48.499 It is also the story of children and how they feel,and what the feelings of a child may do 00:04:48.500 --> 00:04:52.266 to the man or woman the child will grow into. 00:04:52.266 --> 00:04:54.932 [Music] 00:04:54.933 --> 00:05:01.166 A child learns to be a man by playing, by imitating in his play the things men do, 00:05:01.166 --> 00:05:03.499 the way grown-ups act. 00:05:03.500 --> 00:05:08.466 They pretend to be men because it makes them feel good inside. 00:05:08.466 --> 00:05:12.632 It makes them feel more like the grown-ups they admire most. 00:05:12.633 --> 00:05:17.299 They show off as if to say, "See what a man I am going to be." 00:05:17.300 --> 00:05:31.200 And this is good, because it is in this way that a child learns to be a man, 00:05:31.200 --> 00:05:33.966 but sometimes without knowing any better,the child imitates 00:05:33.966 --> 00:05:38.132 only the bragging, unhappy part of a man. 00:05:38.133 --> 00:05:40.399 [Man 1:] Qué macho! 00:05:40.400 --> 00:05:42.000 [Narrator:] "What a man." 00:05:42.000 --> 00:05:45.833 But is that being a man? A real man? 00:05:45.833 --> 00:05:54.299 Sometimes a boy never becomes a man, because he never stops pretending, 00:05:54.300 --> 00:05:56.400 but not every boy must just show off. 00:05:56.400 --> 00:06:05.400 Juanito can play at being man by sitting quietly and enjoying the company of his father, Tomas. 00:06:05.400 --> 00:06:11.500 Every man wants his son to grow up to be a true man and his daughter to marry a true man, 00:06:11.500 --> 00:06:13.500 but who knows if this will happen? 00:06:13.500 --> 00:06:18.066 Too often the boy will become a turkey, a peacock, a fool, 00:06:18.066 --> 00:06:24.232 and the girl who loves such a man may become a disappointed, unhappy wife. 00:06:24.233 --> 00:06:28.733 But it is possible to grow a true man, just as it is possible 00:06:28.733 --> 00:06:30.799 to grow a seedling into a fine tree. 00:06:30.800 --> 00:06:39.266 So a young boy can be cultivated and grown into a full man. 00:06:39.266 --> 00:06:42.032 A child grows much as a tree grows. 00:06:42.033 --> 00:06:47.133 Children and trees alike grow for many years,during which they gradually realize the promise 00:06:47.133 --> 00:06:53.433 of their nature, but they need to be nourished and fed, cultivated and protected, 00:06:53.433 --> 00:06:56.266 in order to reach their full growth. 00:06:56.266 --> 00:07:01.732 It is true that trees may grow to their full growth, to maturity without care, 00:07:01.733 --> 00:07:07.333 but with the wild trees, many young ones are crowded out, never reaching their full growth. 00:07:07.333 --> 00:07:17.866 Others rot and die before their time. 00:07:17.866 --> 00:07:20.099 And so it is with children. 00:07:20.100 --> 00:07:25.033 They will have a better chance to flourish, all of them, if they have room to grow 00:07:25.033 --> 00:07:34.433 and are cared for and loved, especially when they are small. 00:07:34.433 --> 00:07:39.266 Like a tree, a small child needs a friendly, congenial climate. 00:07:39.266 --> 00:07:43.099 A climate which comes for the child mainly from the warmth of the parents' love 00:07:43.100 --> 00:07:52.900 for each other, but even the older children flourish in such a climate. 00:07:52.900 --> 00:07:58.933 A child needs deep roots, firmly planted in a strong feeling of family. 00:07:58.933 --> 00:08:01.699 Such a child grown to manhood or womanhood 00:08:01.700 --> 00:08:07.500 is better able to face the storms and droughts of adult life. 00:08:07.500 --> 00:08:11.566 But let us see how our man can grow his trees and his children, 00:08:11.566 --> 00:08:17.032 what a man and his wife can do and be, to help their children or their trees 00:08:17.033 --> 00:08:24.566 best fulfill their own nature. 00:08:24.566 --> 00:08:29.166 When Juan Tomas plants trees, he picks the best soil he can find. 00:08:29.166 --> 00:08:33.566 The man and his wife are themselves the earthfrom which their children grow, 00:08:33.566 --> 00:08:37.399 but this earth is made up of more than just the bodies of the parents. 00:08:37.400 --> 00:08:45.566 There are other things in it, difficult to see, with which we nourish our children. 00:08:45.566 --> 00:08:50.466 There is an inner strength and dignity and gentleness that can flow out from a woman 00:08:50.466 --> 00:08:53.699 who is happy and content with her husband. 00:08:53.700 --> 00:08:57.966 With such a quality in her, a woman can love children, all children, 00:08:57.966 --> 00:09:02.599 more warmly, more freely. 00:09:02.600 --> 00:09:13.133 [Singing in Spanish] 00:09:13.133 --> 00:09:16.566 The children who raised in an atmosphere in which there is love 00:09:16.566 --> 00:09:20.732 flourish in a fortified way. 00:09:20.733 --> 00:09:39.633 [Singing in Spanish continues] 00:09:39.633 --> 00:09:42.066 There is the respect that a man may have for himself. 00:09:42.066 --> 00:09:45.632 This too can fortify those around him. 00:09:45.633 --> 00:09:49.433 For when a man truly respects himself, when he feels deep inside 00:09:49.433 --> 00:09:53.333 without having to think about it, "I am what I am, 00:09:53.333 --> 00:09:57.833 no better and no worse, and I find it good." 00:09:57.833 --> 00:10:01.366 Such a man sees the true value in each person around him 00:10:01.366 --> 00:10:07.099 and accepts it as good, and because such a man and how he feels 00:10:07.100 --> 00:10:12.633 has a strong influence in his house, each person in it, even the very little one, 00:10:12.633 --> 00:10:18.033 feels also that he is of some value and importance. 00:10:18.033 --> 00:10:22.133 All of them can feel deep inside without having to think about it, 00:10:22.133 --> 00:10:35.333 "I am what I am, and I find it good, because my father finds it good." 00:10:35.333 --> 00:10:41.866 The man who understands trees or children can be firm, but he can also be patient and gentle. 00:10:41.866 --> 00:10:45.932 When a young child is old enough to dig holes,it is useless for a father to get angry 00:10:45.933 --> 00:10:48.299 and say, "Don't dig." 00:10:48.300 --> 00:10:51.333 He would not say to a tree, "Don't grow." 00:10:51.333 --> 00:10:56.033 A wise parent understands that playing is part of the growing of a child. 00:10:56.033 --> 00:11:11.699 Part of the business of learning how to be a man. 00:11:11.700 --> 00:11:20.133 Young trees and young children will need careful attention for a long time. 00:11:20.133 --> 00:11:31.666 A wise man never plants more trees than he can care for. 00:11:31.666 --> 00:11:35.599 Fewer trees well-spaced, properly cultivated, will grow better 00:11:35.600 --> 00:11:38.533 than many trees planted too close together. 00:11:38.533 --> 00:11:43.133 It is a foolish man who brags, look how many trees I have planted, 00:11:43.133 --> 00:11:46.533 forgetting he may not be able to care for them properly, 00:11:46.533 --> 00:11:49.699 forgetting how much water young trees need. 00:11:49.700 --> 00:11:59.300 [Music] 00:11:59.300 --> 00:12:03.800 The care of boys and girls continues even when they are almost fully grown. 00:12:03.800 --> 00:12:09.133 It is a different kind of care when the child is older, the kind of care that can help a girl like Petra 00:12:09.133 --> 00:12:22.399 in her effort to think and feel and act by herself more grown-up. 00:12:22.400 --> 00:12:28.333 One way young children learn to be grown up is by imitating in their play the things grownups do. 00:12:28.333 --> 00:12:33.599 The older ones learn in the same way, but what they do is not so much imitating, 00:12:33.600 --> 00:12:35.400 not so much play. 00:12:35.400 --> 00:12:40.333 It comes very close to living the way grown-ups do. 00:12:40.333 --> 00:12:46.299 At this age, boys often feel that they have to showthey're really men already, proving to themselves, 00:12:46.300 --> 00:12:56.366 to the girls, and to other boys that they've already come to manhood. 00:12:56.366 --> 00:13:00.566 For the girls too, this is a time of testing and proving. 00:13:00.566 --> 00:13:06.299 Every teenage girl likes to flirt because it makes her feel more of a woman. 00:13:06.300 --> 00:13:10.366 Sometimes this proving of manhood isthe boy mearly showing off 00:13:10.366 --> 00:13:13.699 with all sorts of flattery. 00:13:13.700 --> 00:13:18.866 A girl can flirt, but still know the boy is not saying true things. 00:13:18.866 --> 00:13:23.599 She does not have to go with just any man who wants her. 00:13:23.600 --> 00:13:28.400 She can know when it is time to say, "You are not yet a man, my friend. 00:13:28.400 --> 00:13:36.200 You only think you are." 00:13:36.200 --> 00:13:40.466 But not everyone can be so lucky as to understand these things. 00:13:40.466 --> 00:13:44.066 If there is no happiness in the home, if there is too little love and understanding 00:13:44.066 --> 00:13:51.366 and respect, then a young girl or a young man may leap impulsively into marriage with anyone, 00:13:51.366 --> 00:13:59.666 desiring only to escape the misery of the parents' home, to grasp for pleasure, to feel important. 00:13:59.666 --> 00:14:04.099 Such a marriage born out of desperation, made without thought, 00:14:04.100 --> 00:14:07.633 can doom the young man and woman to a life of unhappiness. 00:14:07.633 --> 00:14:10.866 [Music] 00:14:10.866 --> 00:14:15.532 The tree cannot have deep roots in a hard, unfriendly soil. 00:14:15.533 --> 00:14:29.066 A child cannot have healthy roots in a house full of anger. 00:14:29.066 --> 00:14:35.999 Sometimes children retreat from anger into themselves, into a blind, hopeless apathy. 00:14:36.000 --> 00:14:41.166 Such a child cannot flourish. 00:14:41.166 --> 00:14:45.399 Sometimes children can build a refuge of warmth and love for themselves 00:14:45.400 --> 00:14:55.366 that will protect them from the anger in such a house. 00:14:55.366 --> 00:14:58.632 But a child must do something to escape anger. 00:14:58.633 --> 00:15:00.033 He cannot live with it. 00:15:00.033 --> 00:15:06.266 It hurts too much, and sometimes he will defend himself from anger with more anger, 00:15:06.266 --> 00:15:09.932 with defiance. 00:15:09.933 --> 00:15:14.766 For some men, turning an angry face to the worldis a way of feeling important. 00:15:14.766 --> 00:15:25.732 Neither for his son nor for himself can such a one be a true man. 00:15:25.733 --> 00:15:28.633 There has not always been anger and hatred in this house. 00:15:28.633 --> 00:15:33.099 Constant disappointments come because each expect from the other 00:15:33.100 --> 00:15:36.000 more than he or she can give. 00:15:36.000 --> 00:15:41.400 Too many children, too much fighting, too much anger have made of this woman 00:15:41.400 --> 00:15:48.766 a nagging, bitter wife, and of the husband a selfish bully. 00:15:48.766 --> 00:15:52.599 This is not just one of the little squabbles of everyday married life. 00:15:52.600 --> 00:15:57.800 This twisted, crooked kind of anger is bad for a man, bad for a woman, 00:15:57.800 --> 00:16:00.400 bad for children. 00:16:00.400 --> 00:16:03.900 And the children in such a home may try to escape the anger, 00:16:03.900 --> 00:16:07.966 perhaps before they are old enough, by doing just what their parents did: 00:16:07.966 --> 00:16:20.866 marrying in haste without thought, without understanding, without love. 00:16:20.866 --> 00:16:23.599 But even in a home in which there are love and understanding, 00:16:23.600 --> 00:16:26.400 there can be serious troubles. 00:16:26.400 --> 00:16:31.766 A man who desires his child to grow straight must understand that each new step toward 00:16:31.766 --> 00:16:37.432 manhood must be encouraged, but this is sometimes difficult, especially when the new 00:16:37.433 --> 00:16:43.699 things the child has learned outside the home are unfamiliar to the parents. 00:16:43.700 --> 00:17:06.333 It was just such a new step when Juanito brought home two rabbits one day. 00:17:06.333 --> 00:17:10.333 His father was full of doubts: "Who will eat rabbits? 00:17:10.333 --> 00:17:13.233 Why raise animals that are good for nothing?' 00:17:13.233 --> 00:17:19.166 It is hard for a man who has never eaten rabbitto have his son tell him that they are good to eat. 00:17:19.166 --> 00:17:24.299 It is hard for a man to accept learning new things from his son. 00:17:24.300 --> 00:17:26.500 But the boy is very stubborn. 00:17:26.500 --> 00:17:29.500 He acts as if he were the man of the house. 00:17:29.500 --> 00:17:34.933 The boy says he learned about rabbits in school,that they are good to eat and cheap, 00:17:34.933 --> 00:17:51.433 and easy to raise, and besides, he will take care of them all by himself. 00:17:51.433 --> 00:17:55.299 It is hard for a man to let his son win an argument. 00:17:55.300 --> 00:17:58.900 It is hard, but a man must do it sometimes. 00:17:58.900 --> 00:18:02.700 He must let the child take new steps when he is ready. 00:18:02.700 --> 00:18:05.300 That makes him even more of a man. 00:18:05.300 --> 00:18:08.500 No one would think of preventing a tree from growing. 00:18:08.500 --> 00:18:12.600 Neither should one prevent a child from growing. 00:18:12.600 --> 00:18:21.166 [Music] 00:18:21.166 --> 00:18:23.599 The physical growth of people and of trees is reached one day, 00:18:23.600 --> 00:18:28.633 but there is another kind of growth of people that need not stop. 00:18:28.633 --> 00:18:33.799 For there is possible in the hearts and minds of men and women, a growth in experience, 00:18:33.800 --> 00:18:38.666 in understanding, in maturity. 00:18:38.666 --> 00:19:01.999 [Music] 00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:07.833 To raise a real man, one should be a real man,so strong in the feeling of his own worth 00:19:07.833 --> 00:19:10.999 that he does not pretend to be something he is not. 00:19:11.000 --> 00:19:15.666 He can be a good son to his parents because he does not have to prove that he is a man. 00:19:15.666 --> 00:19:19.199 They know it. 00:19:19.200 --> 00:19:21.333 He can be gentle with his children. 00:19:21.333 --> 00:19:24.266 They too know he is a man. 00:19:24.266 --> 00:19:27.532 He has knowledge of himself and respect for himself. 00:19:27.533 --> 00:19:33.399 For this reason, he does not have to be a bully or a braggart to make himself feel content. 00:19:33.400 --> 00:19:38.566 This is what makes a true man, and it is possible to help a child grow 00:19:38.566 --> 00:19:44.032 into a true man or the wife of a true man, and it is possible for the young people 00:19:44.033 --> 00:19:49.533 to understand how the children they will someday have, may also be helped and cultivated 00:19:49.533 --> 00:19:55.899 and loved, so that they too will be true men and the wives of true men. 00:19:55.900 --> 00:20:09.233 [Music] 00:20:09.233 --> 00:20:13.166 In such a home, children can have more patience and understanding towards each other, 00:20:13.166 --> 00:20:19.499 for they have learned that along with the pleasures of love, there also should be the patience of love, 00:20:19.500 --> 00:20:27.833 the consideration of love, the understanding of love. 00:20:27.833 --> 00:20:31.699 They know that all these things go into making a true man. 00:20:31.700 --> 00:20:36.000 They know it because they see it in their daily lives at home. 00:20:36.000 --> 00:20:41.833 They know it because they see it in the way the grown-ups act and feel toward each other. 00:20:41.833 --> 00:20:48.766 In the way their parents act and feel with them. 00:20:48.766 --> 00:21:16.766 [Music] 00:21:16.766 --> 00:21:19.566 This man has planted well and cultivated well. 00:21:19.566 --> 00:21:25.432 His trees and his children will be able to lead stronger and happier and more useful lives 00:21:25.433 --> 00:21:29.199 because of the care he and his wife have given them. 00:21:29.200 --> 00:21:34.233 This is a story of people and how they are with each other. 00:21:34.233 --> 00:21:41.033 The story of a family, what being in such a family can mean to each person in it. 00:21:41.033 --> 00:21:46.366 May there be peace and honor and happiness for them all in the years to come. 00:21:46.366 --> 00:22:01.466 [Music] 00:22:01.466 --> 00:22:05.032 [THE END Endorsed by the National Association for Mental Health 00:22:05.033 --> 00:22:10.533 and the National Institute of Mental Health of the Public Health Service]